Give to get

 

You don’t go into a relationship to get
Get sex
Get married
Get rich
Get taken care of
You go into a relationship to give
Give love
Give support
Give time
It is only through giving we can find true love and freedom
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Pictures by Andrew C. Weingart

 

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Be the partner you want for yourself

We can all talk and discuss and work on self love, but there is nothing better than to experience the powerful change that self love can bring to your life. It took me many years and many relationships – all great lessons, by the way – to understand what I deserve and how to open myself for it. All the heartaches, arguments and sleepless nights trying to figure out what was wrong with me, what was wrong with them, and why and so forth, they all prepared me, trained me, made me stronger and confident. But it wasn’t until I realized that the love I had for myself reflected on the way I was loved by others that I was able to create solid changes in my life. The work is hard and yet it can be super fun if you are grateful for the opportunity to grow, grateful for each person along the way and grateful for the path that brings you to calm and happy waters. Transformation is guaranteed as long as you are not afraid to look within, to undress, to find the reasons and to love yourself unconditionally.

Even though I am still growing, learning and working on myself, I have finally found a peaceful place, a place full of love that brought me an incredible partner. Someone who not only loves me for who I am, but celebrates me as I am. Someone who actively listens because he is interested in what I see, feel and experience. Someone who actively talks because he wants me to know of his feelings and experiences. A man who wants to be part of my life and grow with me without changing me in anyway. A beautiful soul who is never competing but instead working with me. A love that is not attached and yet incredibly intertwined. A love that is fun and light because life can have enough shit to be dealt with and your love should be your safe place, your home, your recharging place.

And for those who feel now like I felt not too long ago – as if it is impossible to find a great partner – all I have to say is: work on self love. You have to become that great partner first and only then you will attract your equal.

 

 

Here are some of the things I learned along the way:

Do not be afraid of being single – and having fun as such – until you find what you want.

Do not ever feel like you need to change yourself for others. Be you. Grow for yourself. Improve yourself constantly.

Do not allow yourself to be treated poorly. Not once. That will give the tone for your entire relationship.

 

Do treat everyone the way you want to be treated. With kindness and love.

Do know what you deserve. Not what society tells you, not what your mother tells you, not what is expected from you.

Do know your value is only yours and it should never come from what kind of partner/husband you have. Give yourself value. Your partner should add value not define it.

Stay away from all of the cultural norms of what you have to be and do, unless it really comes from your heart. All of our traditions come from old days where women were owned, paid by (diamond ring), virgins (white dress) and submissive. The obligation of such events comes from the insecurity of being you, they come from the pride that a man finally wants to marry you. Do what feels right for you when you celebrate your love.

 

Be present with no expectations. Always. That is the only way to love unconditionally. If your love is bound to an expectation of result – marriage – duration or any other condition, the light feeling of experiencing present and unconditional love will not be there. The feeling of freedom that comes from not expecting results and yet doing your best is absolutely incredible!

 

Keep growing, improving, working on yourself. Never fear break ups or heartaches as they come to have you change directions. Always, always be grateful for each person, each moment and each lesson.

Be open to love. Fearless and vulnerable. Truthful and kind. Always.

Allow love.

When you love yourself, someone else can love you too.

 

Beijo,

Paty

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Can you see the heart?

 

We have all we need

 

20170430_173210Our bodies were not made to work 60 hours a week

Nor to watch TV or sit for long

Our bodies were not made to eat ice cream, sugar and artificial chemicals

But we have become so disconnected, so distant from our true selves

That our bodies are now reacting violently as reminder

And then we see “dis ease”

When we should always be at ease

We don’t need to buy, to build, to hoard

We have to live

Our bodies were made to move

To play

Our bodies were made to be free

Free of chemicals

Free of pain

Our bodies were made to play

To carry us through this beautiful experience

To feel delicious and curious

What does it take for us to wake up?

The Earth is telling us enough

As for our bodies are hers too

When we care for ourselves, we care for all Β that is around us

The only “dis ease” we carry is the impression that money, career and goods will make us better

That religion will take us to god, when god is within

We already are magnificent

As is

All of the issues spread from lack of self love

We eat, buy, go to war to hide that lack

But if we play

If we let go

If we go within

We will find out everything is already there

Then we can heal

Then our planet will heal

Look within my loves

The answer is there

And it is beautiful

With love,

Paty

 

Remember the mother

As the world becomes more chaotic and fearful

Remember the mother

As the world seems lost

Remember the mother

As the world feel ill

Remember the mother

As the darkness come

Remember the mother

As the pain increases

Remember the mother

As for the mother is the only one with the power or present love

The mother creates peace to overcome chaos

The mother always finds the way

The mother never gets tired when looking for the cure

The mother always makes you safe and brings you light

The mother kisses the pain away

The mother nourishes the soul with kindness, she dedicates all of her love to the growth of others, she thrives on unimaginable circumstances because her strength comes from pure love

Remember the mother as she is the only one that can bring this world together

 

Much love

Paty

Look within to create without

The very thing we wish for the most is also the one we fear the most. Our culturally learned fear of failure prevents us from fully enjoying the light that lives within us, the love that is nourished through lifetimes and often reflected on the mirrors we call partners or soulmates. And the more we doubt our own power, the more we believe we are not worth it, the more we dim the light of love that is our most pure form.

As we grow and meditate and learn and observe ourselves and our surroundings, we slowly learn the truth of what we are. We slowly start to become present in the breath and heart beat, tasting and listening to the beauty of our own heart and perfection of our own body. And the more present we are, the less we believe in what has been told us, the less we fear, the more we let go.

The expansion of each inhalation makes us mingle with source, forgetting the impositions of the ego and all feelings that come from it. The pause on the breath makes us float in that moment of bliss. The power of the exhalation feels like a warm hug that brings us back to the self without ever forgetting where we come from. The breath flow becomes a dance for the present moment, where life is always happening lively and free. We let go of what was, of what we think it was and of what we expect it should be.

In that moment, that one very moment, we expand the heart, we open for love. And in that moment, someone just like us, someone that has done the work, conquered the breath and let go of the fear, that someone will be right there, nose to nose with you, heart touching in the most beautiful way as you both breathe together. Your lights will merge as you hold each other. Your hearts will speak the soft language of love as you embrace the moment, free of expectations or fear or judgement. And that moment will last forever as it breaks down the construct of our timeline because light travels at a different speed and love, free love, has no limitations.

Let go of fear, love yourself unconditionally, search within and trust that you are the most beautiful light on this planet. Because you are. And then, allow that light to be reflected back at you through the eyes of your beloved.

Much love,

Paty

Inspired by my love, my light, my warrior Andrew

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The choice

We always have a choice

And we also can find an excuse

And that defines our character

How many times have you found yourself wondering how did life come to this?

How many times did you feel powerless?

How many times have you put yourself in the passenger seat, victim mode?

What if you discover the power within?

What if you figure out YOU are the writer of your story?

What if you leave everything behind and start everything new?

No more victim

No more waiting

Taking action

Creating change

Letting go of what doesn’t belong to you

Hurt, abuse, guilt, anger… let it all go

Make space for something new

Space for love, laugh, play..

Space for things that worth to stay

What if i tell you there is no excuse

That the power is yours?

Will you run away? Or will you choose to stay?

Will you change your life, write your story?

Will you?

 

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The seed

As a seed breaks into a thousand pieces and travels through the dark of the earth before finding the sun and becoming a flower, we need to remember our true path, we need to never forget the flower. We shall continue to move towards the sun as we open the path for those who have forgotten they are made of pure love.

 

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